tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post1809162640874235882..comments2023-05-20T04:23:57.498-04:00Comments on Solo DOT Mom: Time for the TALKUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-76181257508670261352008-09-24T08:51:00.000-04:002008-09-24T08:51:00.000-04:00My Daughter is 10. Last year in 4th grade, they w...My Daughter is 10. Last year in 4th grade, they watched "the video". That's a year ealier than when I was in elementary school. But due to all the hormones they're pumping into our chickens and cows, girls are developing much sooner ... blah, blah, anyway. I talk to her in spurts, just little tidbits to inform her, but not scare the bejeebies out of her (or gross her out completely). I don't think that at 9 or 10, they need to be so informed about sex that it makes them even more curious. And to start immunizing them for diseases they "might" get, is just one little degree away from putting them on birth control for sex that "might" happen. <BR/>Like I said, tiny, little, casual tidbits is about all they need at this age (at least,that's what the voices in my head are telling me).JustGiihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14748749083359136333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-61734161082991769732008-09-23T16:25:00.000-04:002008-09-23T16:25:00.000-04:00My son is 12 and I had "the talk" with him when he...My son is 12 and I had "the talk" with him when he was 10. Actually I first had to hae the talk with him when he was 7 because he caught his 16 year old babysitter having sex with her boyfriend when she thought he was sleeping- that's another story. <BR/><BR/>Sorry I dont have any advise for girls, just boys, but I think it can be handled the same way. Talk very openly and truthful about her changing body. Be honest with her about sex. You do not need to divulge too much information, just enough at this age. <BR/><BR/>Don't not speak to her. You do not want her to get her period and think she is dying. That happened to my nanny- her parents had not talked to her (this was in the 40's) and she started bleeding and thought she was dying.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-86107754297510616342008-09-19T15:47:00.000-04:002008-09-19T15:47:00.000-04:00We're not letting Ladybug date until she's 30 eith...We're not letting Ladybug date until she's 30 either, so I'm hoping we can delay "the talk." <BR/><BR/>As for the vaccine, I'm against it. As a Christian mom, I want my daughter to know the facts, but not give her any reason to think that sex outside marriage is "safe." Abstinence is the only 100% way to prevent STDs and pregnancy. <BR/><BR/>Sorry, I don't mean to use your comment section for my soapbox. It's something I feel very strongly about after working with teenagers for 10+ years.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03954179323097955442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-2467541371837680222008-09-18T15:31:00.000-04:002008-09-18T15:31:00.000-04:00Hey found your blog through Blogged. I'm only rate...Hey found your blog through Blogged. I'm only rated a lowly 6.3 *sigh*. Anyway, I'm gonna check out the facebook thing. My daughter is only 2 btw, and I'm already scared.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-90035289675161418962008-09-18T13:15:00.000-04:002008-09-18T13:15:00.000-04:00I talked to my daughter about sex when she was 11....I talked to my daughter about sex when she was 11. http://dadshouseblog.com/2008/07/02/how-to-talk-to-your-daughter-about-sex/<BR/><BR/>Talking about her changing body happened before that. I seem to remember they had the puberty talk in school when girls were 9 or 10.<BR/><BR/>As for HPV vaccine - it seems like a good idea to me. My ex-wife isn't so sure. My ex-wife's OBGYN told her they haven't tested it enough, and recommended against it. Our pediatrician, though, recommends for it. <BR/><BR/>Probably next time my daughter goes in, we'll do the HPV vaccine. But I have to convince my co-parent first.dadshousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01850838844108349101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-19330324537260938662008-09-18T10:53:00.000-04:002008-09-18T10:53:00.000-04:00Yeah. Scary. 9 seems young. Trust your gut. If she...Yeah. Scary. 9 seems young. Trust your gut. If she's asking - tell her. When she wants answers you'll know she's ready. <BR/><BR/>As for the vaccine... GET IT! Not yet, but put it on the list. Wish we would have had one. <BR/><BR/>Good luck, sweetie.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-3275133132402219632008-09-18T10:47:00.000-04:002008-09-18T10:47:00.000-04:00Eek!!! That is way fast!! My oldest is turning sev...Eek!!! That is way fast!! My oldest is turning seven tomorrow... I can't even imagine this at age 9.<BR/><BR/>Do you remember the book, "Are you there, God? Its me, Margaret."<BR/><BR/>I loved that book and it helped me so much in learning what was going to happen to my body. <BR/><BR/>Eh, just a thought. Good luck!https://www.blogger.com/profile/10112766306021310705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-84683696875092529062008-09-18T09:53:00.000-04:002008-09-18T09:53:00.000-04:00Hey Kat I bet if you ask Cass she might could tell...Hey Kat I bet if you ask Cass she might could tell you more than you want to know -- I have a couple girls at church that at 6 years old and they know more about "the facts of life" than I did until I was older like 10 or 11 at least. There is one website I go to alot - don't know if it would have everything your looking for but it's got about any topic on there it's www.health.com - it might help!<BR/><BR/>Good Luck!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-596342430431041831.post-43488662744792859192008-09-18T09:04:00.000-04:002008-09-18T09:04:00.000-04:00Whoa! You're scaring me. My oldest girlie is sev...Whoa! You're scaring me. My oldest girlie is seven.<BR/><BR/>I heard everything was starting younger but she still seems like such a baby.<BR/><BR/>We have had talks about tampons and periods and such as she spends so much time in the bathroom with me, but holy crap!<BR/><BR/>I don't have any advice. Just share your dumbfoundedness!<BR/><BR/>More casual conversations to see what she knows methinks.<BR/><BR/>Keep us updated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com