If you are a single parent, you can relate that it’s hard to find time to wash the clothes, wash your hair, or even brush your teeth. So if you are going to find time to do the extras like paint your toenails for us moms, you have to make that time, aka "steal" that time from somewhere else. But this was my first date after the dating ban that lasted a total of seven weeks ended Monday night. I had made the decision to get off work 1/2 hour early, go home, shower, wash my hair, and even paint my toenails before meeting my date at my fave restaurant.
But we had a good time, so I have no regrets for taking the extra time to "primp" for him. He was worth it and I came home smiling all the way.
Now here is the rest of the story. First of all this was just a first date. Second I have to keep a small guard up because: a. he has never been married; and b. never been a parent. So my paralysis of analysis kicked in following the great evening as I "rehashed" all the details with a good friend by phone. (Thanks btw.) But the final conclusion was:
1. I am interested.
2. I do want to go out again.
3. I am preparing for the possible I-don’t-want-to-be-a-step-dad-syndrome to kick in.
4. I am guarded and at the same time looking for possible chemistry.
5. I do want to see where this goes but it will be a while before I commit to an exclusive relationship (with anyone).
6. Happy he's local.
7. Did I mention he's local?
Keeping a balance is what the summation of my hour long ‘convo’ came to. A balance between wanting this to work for the sake of a chance at a local relationship with a mentally and financially stable kind of guy and keeping an open mind to what I can learn about him and grow to enjoy about his company and what he can bring to a relationship; or bring into my life and thereby what I can also bring into his.
· Do I have baggage to deal with?
· Do I have insecurities about my next relationship?
· Am I rightfully guarded?
I am thinking working through all these things, is a part of what the journey is about with the right guy/girl combination. When you care about getting to know someone that can eventually grow into caring "about" someone; and with him right down the road, in my book, I just cleared half the battle!