My DOTMOM Eyes

 

I am trying out a new site to post about my day-to-day joys along this journey as a single mom, a position/status that will be changing in the near future.

Don't worry, I will still be posting at this site (SOLO dot MOM) but also hope you will check out the new tumbler - at http://dotmom.tumblr.com titled: "My DOTMOM Eyes" and check out the latest happenings in my world.

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Find yourself... keeping it real.
SOLO dot MOM

I'm in Love...for real

I have loved before.  I have loved deeply and have committed to a love relationship before. But I have never felt a love nor been in love like this before.

During the last few weeks, I have announced a new relationship and I'm already talking about a future with a man that lives over an hour away.  (I know it sounds crazy.) Yet our bond is so strong, so undeniably unmistakably remarkable, that he has already made plans to move closer.

In other words: Yes, it's serious and yes, I'm happy.

Everyone we run into together can see it on both our faces... we are ecstatic about finding each other.

I am at a loss at trying to explain it.  We stopped trying to understand it on the second day of our incredible discovery. A discovery that you can feel so much for one person and find yourself so caught up in your own emotions, you think you are a teenager all over again... and then you start to question this magical, amazing relationship that is blooming in front of your eyes like a dream come true. Because you want to try to find the logic in it.

But all these weeks later, we are still there. Frozen in our emotions, yet moving forward with our future plans, together.  Plans that include making this a journey as one couple...someday.

Here is what he wrote last night in the wee hours of the morning, just for me:

When I First,

When I first heard your voice,

It was thick and sweet as honey

It called to me like a siren calls a sailor

Listening wasn't enough

I wanted to wrap that voice around me

Use it as a blanket when I was cold

When I first saw your face,

I knew what Angels looked like

Your eyes captured mine with just a blink

Your hair floated on the breeze

Your smile brighter than the evening sun

Melted any doubts that might have lingered

When we first touched,

There was a current flowing from your body to mine

Touching you was like running my fingers through strands of silk

Holding your trembling body brought strength to my resolve

Touching your cheek was like touching heaven's clouds

Holding your hand was like grasping a fistful of rose petals

When I first kissed your lips,

My heart was set on fire

Lips so soft and full that they melted my loneliness

Lips that were refreshing as a glass of ice water

Lips that were as hot as a steel forge

Lips that thawed the desires of my soul

When I first heard you say "I love you",

My heart stopped beating

My chest felt like tighter than a vise

My breath caught in my throat

Your expression the most beautiful sight in my life

The use of my name left me soaring to heights unknown

When I first realized you had become my best friend,

I wanted to tell my deepest desires

Listen to your deepest desires

Take away any pain you feel

Take your hand for all to see

Hold you close and wipe away your tears.....

By: Chadwick Clark for Kathy Shinault

So, what am I saying?

We are in love. It feels so wonderful.
We are happy and yes, this is serious.

True love...

Find yourself...keeping it real.

And so it goes…

God is good all the time and all the time, God is good.  So no matter what happens, what difficulty you may be facing, what challenge has been set before you, what mountain you have in front of you in your journey, that statement is true. 

This too shall pass. What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger (so the song goes). You have heard all the phrases that people say when they know someone is facing a difficult time in her life. And yes, the phrases are true. But from experience, do they make you feel any better about your situation?

Probably not.  But you can rest assured that whatever you are facing – it will pass with time and you will get through it. And during that time – you must use caution, wisdom, and previous experiences to make good decisions in the middle of this crisis. Pray about it, people.

In other words – just because those “phrases” don’t make you feel better, don’t act upon what you “feel” (and your emotions that come with those feelings) but act upon what you “will,” as my boss would say.  Because during the difficulties, it is your feelings and how you “react” to those feelings (or lack of feelings) that will get you in trouble down the road – when further consequences play out and you have to contend with them.

So what am I saying exactly? Well I am going through one of those difficult seasons in my journey.  And  during this time I am finding these few things to be truth:

• God is real.
• God is good.
• You can’t always trust your feelings, but you can always trust God and His Word.
• You should make decisions based upon the outcomes you want to have in life instead of “reacting” to the current situation.
• I like wearing heels, I love chocolate chip cookies, I love the immeasurable soft feeling of my new furry slippers when I put them on in the evening (thanks LoveSac.com), and I love watching my daughter play her soccer games. (Not necessarily all at the same time nor in that order, mind you.)

And there you have it. In a nutshell, what I have been learning over the past few weeks.

…and so it goes…

P.S. As a short word for LoveSac.com, a recent sponsor, let me also point you to their sactionals department. If these customized basic pieces that make up endless combinations of comfy furniture feel anything like their furry slippers… you will be sitting in nothing less than the epitome of comfort in their cozy and relaxing sectional sofas.

It’s already the middle of January?

I have pictures to post on my blog from our Christmas celebration, I really do.  I look at recent posts and I realize – time is flying by…faster and faster. It seems that only Facebook has seen posts from me lately, so I have been thinking – I want to get back to my blog. I miss it.

Most likely my readership will have to be rebuilt and my page ranking, but that’s not what my blog was ever about anyway.  Not really.  I love blogging, remember?  At least when I had time to blog, I did.  Looking back at my posts, I see many favorites and it gives me the itch to start this up again…more frequently.

So let’s hear from you.  Anybody still out there? Anyone…Anyone… (I’m hearing crickets ) Do you even want to keep up with this “Solo DOT mom’s” life – even through the lens of a thumbnail view?