I think I have been keeping them ALL at arm’s length.
A guy I dated three Christmases ago told me that I was after we stopped dating. We were catching up over a year later and I found out he was serious with someone, planning marriage even. When I commented that I was dating, but nothing serious, he replied “Still keeping them at arm’s length, I see.”
I asked myself later, what did that mean? I laughed it off at the moment and played it off in conversation, but it has stuck with me ever since. That conversation was a year ago; but it still rings in my head, “keeping them at arms length.” Remember, I have to be guarded to a degree. I have two children that I would like to keep sheltered from any more “drama” in their life; at least any drama that amounts to more than “no candles at a ceremony.” My rule of thumb has been that the kids don’t meet a guy I am dating, until there is a “reason” for them to meet them. Why rush that? So with that in mind perhaps I have not only guarded my children but my heart as well. But why rush that?
Then in one day this week, one day I tell you; three different women were telling me voluntarily of their success on Match.com. One mom blogger,Rebecca, had met her second husband (who treats her like a queen) on Match and Daily Blond (Cheryl) was telling me she met her long time best friend and now her serious relationship (Mr. Handsome) originally on Match.com. Both of these insightful stories were shared in one day, followed by another friend who said, “I have met the man I am going to marry.” Well wouldn’t you know she met him two weeks ago… on Match.com!
So I ask you, since I am not doing research here, and this information just kind of fell in my lap, is that a sign? Am I supposed to try Match.com again? I do believe there are some success stories from meeting potential dating partners online. Though, I don’t believe there are as many as eHarmony would make you to think exist, the stats were high for this one day at least for Match.com.
Now I may be keeping them at arm’s length…. for a little while longer, but I think it’s time for me to get back out there….