What are your thoughts of youngsters having MySpace pages?
My son "had" one. I started him one over a year ago when he was thirteen, that I set up and planned to monitor. He then had me to delete 'that one' because he made one on his own with a friend's help at the library. Nice.
So every other month or so.... I would go on and look at his page. (At least he befriended me, so I could view it.) But to my surprise, during a recent visit... there were some "foul" words being used on some of his 'posters'/jokes he had on his page. I didn't approve of certain things, so I asked him 'calmly' to take them off and I would be happy.
(As most fourteen year old boys would) he got upset and said it was 'his space'. I proceeded to explain to him that as his parent I have a right to monitor his "space" and that I could take action to delete the page if necessary with the 'MySpace' police.
So I gave him another week.
No change on his page.
So with the help of MySpace, I had it deleted.
Was I too harsh? Should I let him have "his space?"
I would love your feedback on this mean mom action. I like to think I am the type of open minded parent that allows some liberties for the kids to enjoy... some privileges and some independence that they wouldn't have otherwise. But then there are times like these when I have "put my foot" down because - I choose my battles and this was one of them.
The page has been deleted by the very cooperative MySpace customer service for a few weeks now... and Jas didn't even notice until more than a month went by. At least now I know it was of no real importance. Although when he realized what I did, he created a new page which I have set to my favorites so that I can monitor what is viewable... and so far he has kept it just as I would allow it, meaning I have no problem with it. But I would still love to get your feedback on just how far you think parents should go when it comes to MySpace. Because I am ready to have MySpace police step in again if need be.... as many times as necessary if he breaks the rules on what I would allow on the page.
Maybe the bigger issue here is the fact he would even want such things I disapprove of on the site to begin with. Why he didn't want to remove the specific "funny" jokes from his earlier page is beyond me. But I am hoping this is a stage.... and that it will be over soon.
What do you think?
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