It just dawned on me.... If I ever tie the knot with Mr. M. (and no, we are not even engaged so don't let your minds wander here...) I would be a s.t.e.p.m.o.t.h.e.r! Now please trust me, I am really not slow; but I never gave it a lot of thought before writing this.
Right now it's just his kids, my kids, and the fact that we have already discussed there will never be any "our" kids (if we ever do tie the knot in the future btw) when we mention "kiddos" in conversations. But it just hit me.... hmmm, if we ever did officially blend the families, I then become a step mom.
How do you try to be a good stepmom (and not the wicked one)?
Is it a preconceived notion that his kiddos will have about any potential step mom and will this perhaps be too difficult to change?
Can I earn the love and respect from this man's children?
How long does that take?
Can it happen while we are still 'just dating'?
I don't want to ever try to replace their mom... not even for a minute; nor do I want them to feel they must treat me like a mom when they hang with me and their dad.... but what role can I be compared to? Their aunt? Ok their cool aunt... I can handle that!
Wow, now that I have thought about this, my questions just continue to pour out and leak all over the place. Am I able to add one more hat to my collection? This is all new to me, you know?
What overwhelming notions...
How do you recommend a "stepmother" (or potential stepmother) gain the much needed respect from the significant other's kiddos?
I think I have the new name for my blog at that time though.... whenever if ever that would be:
STEP dot MOM
What do you think?
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